For a lot of characteristics, the center of the bell curve distribution for women is in a different place from the center of the bell curve for men.
However, for those same characteristics, the difference between the two center points is much smaller than the difference between the maximum and minimum within either distribution.
This is trivially obvious if you talk about, say, height. The average man is taller than the average woman, but lots of women are taller than the average man and lots of men are shorter than the average woman.
Same thing for behavioral characteristics. Those are a lot harder to untangle from socialization, though, and most statistics published in the US and Europe are drawn from US/European populations. What can be said about “average American college students” isn’t necessarily true of “average humans.”
So it’s accurate to say that gender and behavior are correlated in a variety of ways, but it’s not at all accurate to say that “gender is behavioral destiny.”