I can’t say that I’ve ever had anything like that happen to anyone close to me, though I have been depressed in the past and known how impossible it was to do anything other than read the same few unchallenging “thrillers” over and over again, 'cos I was only comfortable in that, escaped, world.
We’ll be sorry not to hear from you, but I think it will be fair to say that you will be in the thoughts of all the regulars on the forum, and that … well, to misquote C.S. Lewis, “Once a member of L & L forum, always a member of L & L forum!” You’ll be warmly welcomed back if and when you ever feel like dropping in again.
I don’t have a god I can ask to be with you both, but the wish is there for you.
I’ve gone through that experience with a friend, and one thing that helped was reading aloud. Not stories but poems, brief and trenchant. I used a Norton anthology and read out favorites here and there. It helped us both to get over the sense of futility, as we reviewed life’s greatest hits. I also played favorite pieces of music, but reading aloud kept me active and giving a service to my friend.
Walt Whitman was especially helpful:
All goes onward and outward, nothing collapses,
And to die is different from what any one supposed, and luckier.
I am so sorry to hear of this. Best thoughts and wishes to both you and your wife. I have been through this and there is nothing I can say right now that will make this any better. Try to enjoy the time you have. We really only have the present anyway.
Kevin,
Thats so sad. My heart goes out to you both. Im so,so sorry.
Just be there for her, its all you can do. Right now, thats all that matters. Youll find that, as in many many cases, shell be there for you too.
My wish for you both, is that youll find the strength and courage youll need to make your time together, a special time.
I dont believe that what I see around me, is all there is. But! What else there is out there, I not too sure. In spite of that, Ill take a chance and say God bless you both.
Be strong
Vic
Oh, Kevin, I am so sorry.
You and your wife will be in my thoughts and prayers.
I know you will find comfort in each other’s presence. These days will be very precious, for both of you now and for the memories that will sustain you in the future.
My heart aches for you both.
But I do still believe in miracles. Never surrender hope.
Truly I am at a loss of words. I pray for you, your wife, and your family and I wish the best in these trying times. I am not good at feel good speeches or methods of expressing hope but if there is anything any of can do do not hesitate to ask.
If times become hard and you need a smile log on here with me and Jaysen and we can kick the old three legged dog around (Vic-k) or if you want to take out your frustrations we can climb up on and deck and I can fly around the SCR ship and let you Skeet shoot at me at the joyous cries of everyone aboard.
Be strong my friend. Your thoughts are always with us and you will be in everyone’s thoughts and prayers.
She’s doing better… Today’s blood work was significantly improved over the one that made the doctor make his dire prediction. We’ve at least got some more time to fight this.
Thanks to all, it’s been rough these last few months.
Maura had a CT scan Tuesday… Doc said it was the best one he’d seen since this whole mess started. The banshee will have to bide her time after all.
Managed to finish an 8k word short story today, a mere seven weeks behind my (self-imposed) deadline.
The next one’s due in December. Staring at the blank page of Scrivener, I decided to procrastinate one more day… :mrgreen: